I've Tried Everything! Why Won't My Baby Just Sleep Through the Night?

The 3am Reality

It’s pitch dark, apart from the blue light of your phone glowing in the corner. You’re sitting in fear, your baby finally calm after another round of feeding, rocking, shushing. You glance at the time - 3:47am - and instinctively open Google again, typing “why won’t my baby sleep through the night?”  You've asked friends (whose babies all seem to be sleeping - how is that even fair?). You’ve scrolled endlessly. You've probably typed the same question into ChatGPT. But nothing sticks. The exhaustion is bone-deep, and your return to work is looming.

Why Do Babies Struggle to Sleep Through?

Babies aren't designed to sleep like adults. Their sleep is influenced by biology, developmental stages, and emotional connection. Sleep is not just about tiredness - it’s also about regulation, routine, and trust.

Things typically unravel around four to six months, when sleep cycles mature. Naps become harder, night wakings increase, and what once seemed manageable now feels relentless. You may also notice this shift coinciding with developmental leaps, teething, or transitions like dropping contact naps.

You've Searched "Why won't my baby sleep?", Asked, and Tried Everything

You’ve likely searched for nap schedules, wake windows, white noise hacks, sleep training methods - gentle, spaced soothing, even cry-it-out in desperation. Maybe you’ve asked a chatbot, downloaded PDFs, and binge-watched sleep tips on YouTube and TikTok (please god not TikTok!).

Trying too many methods for too short a time can confuse your baby.

But here’s the challenge: trying too many methods for too short a time can confuse your baby. Some babies thrive with an in-room parent presence, others do better with space. Some need slow transitions, others do better with more structure.

If the method doesn’t match your baby’s temperament, it likely wouldn’t work even with consistency. And when you switch it up every few nights, your baby doesn’t know what to expect. Sleep becomes a cycle of resistance, not rhythm.

What Actually Helps: A Strategy That’s Designed for You

A trusted (human) expert can offer something Google and chatbots can’t - a plan built around your family’s real life. Not one-size-fits-all advice, but tailored support that considers your baby’s personality, your parenting values, your emotional needs, and your daily routines.

What certified sleep consultants offer:

• Sleep plans that adjust to your child’s age, feeding needs, and temperament

• Guidance that aligns with your parenting approach - whether gentle, structured, or somewhere in between

• Adaptability when things shift - like illness, growth spurts, childcare starts, or co-sleeping transitions

• The emotional support of someone who’s walked this path and understands the invisible weight of it all

  
  

You aren’t just buying a plan - you’re investing in reassurance, empathy, and someone who won’t let you spiral alone at 4am.

ChatGPT can't interpret your baby’s cry or understand your emotional burnout.

Why Human Support Will Get Better Results Than AI

ChatGPT can generate ideas. Reddit can share relatable rants. But none of them can interpret your baby’s cry, understand your emotional burnout, or tweak a nap plan when childcare starts next week.

Real support means:

• Someone hears your tone, your frustration, your fears - and responds with care

• Adjustments are made in real time as your baby’s sleep evolves

• Your values as a parent are respected - not overridden by generic advice

• You get genuine validation, not robotic responses - and practical guidance with heart

Your baby's wake-ups aren't your fault, and neither is your exhaustion.

From Survival to Success

You've likely felt stuck, tired, and emotionally frayed trying to fix your baby's sleep - especially as the pressure builds around returning to work.

But your baby's wake-ups aren't your fault, and neither is your exhaustion. Most sleep issues stem from developmental and emotional factors that can't be resolved by scattered tactics or generic advice. You don’t need more trial-and-error.

You need a strategy - one that honours your baby's temperament, your parenting style, and your real life. And that strategy works best with human support: someone who sees you, hears the nuance, and can guide you step-by-step toward sleep that’s settled, sustainable, and guilt-free.

You deserve rest, clarity, and connection - not burnout dressed up as resilience. This season is hard, but with the right help, you can navigate it from frustration to peace.

My sleep packages can provide a holistic approach to help your child get better sleep – covering sleep environment, safe sleep, age appropriate routines to follow, night weaning advice, settling techniques you're comfortable with and nap management for children aged 4 months to 3 years. If you’d like to talk more about the support available to your family, please book a free sleep assessment call so we can set you on the road to better sleep.